💛All About Forgiveness💛
I've been thinking about forgiveness lately, Beauties ~ how do we perfect the art of compassion? How do we best model forgiveness and healing?
There's a dear young friend of ours who's in the midst of an entanglement... wanting to reconnect with a beautiful soul who has lashed out in anger, creating ripples in their intimate journey and can't see their way through to the other side of it all. The challenge? It's all about forgiveness.
Connection is akin to love. It is one of the most vital and necessary elements of human existence. In fact, our happiness is reliant on the health of our relationships and the ability to assign meaning to our challenges, isn't it?.
How do we navigate the tough times... adapt to conflict... ultimately come out on the other side stronger and with a better understanding of ourselves and others?
The inevitable roadblocks that life throws our way are perfect opportunities on how to be present ~ how to face challenges ~ how to grow through them. And through modeling forgiveness and healing, we give others a road map to help them develop grit, perseverance, and the ability to hold our heads high during strife. Difficulties are inevitable, but the way we handle them becomes our best way of educating others.
Here are 5 ways I've thought of to demonstrate the art of forgiveness; they can help us learn and grow, as well as giving the impetus needed to do the right thing:
💛Choose to forgive.
Forgiveness starts with a choice. It doesn't mean condoning or not holding someone accountable. The choice to forgive means you refuse to allow someone else to control your thoughts, feelings, relationships, or actions. It is your decision, when you are ready, to take your personal power back and not allow someone else to have power over you.
Talk about forgiveness. Share your journey. By letting go of the emotional baggage grievances and hurt can create, you illustrate the gift of healing and forgiveness.
💛 Be Present.
Our thoughts affect how we feel and ultimately behave, Beauties. Most of our time is spent ruminating over the past or planning for the future. When we're in the moment ~ where life is happening now ~ we tune in to our thoughts and check in with ourselves. Understanding where we are allows us to thoughtfully respond and adapt. In addition, being present with the ones we love is also the best way to live life with the fewest regrets. Build time into relationships to be present and to connect and share, without devices and distractions.
💛Practice forgiveness. Every day.
Most of us think about forgiveness as a monumental task that relates to major upsets. In reality, forgiveness is an everyday necessity that is crucial to cultivating healthy and meaningful connections.
Whether you feel a pang of discomfort from a small daily hurt or have endured a major betrayal, name it, then speak to yourself about forgiving and letting it go. Demonstrate how the act of forgiveness can help you move through the hurt, find healing, and end up physically, mentally, and emotionally strengthened.
💛Call on courage.
It isn't easy to let go of an offense, especially when the person who hurt you isn't sorry. Or worse, doesn't care. Courage is the willingness and ability to face our fear and discomfort rather than resisting or avoiding it.
Experts tell us that courage is like a muscle, and we can practice it to make it stronger.
We can start by using positive affirmations to help us reframe negative thinking and get us back on track: 💛I am capable. 💛I am worthy. 💛I am enough. 💛I choose love.
💛Model. And learn to cope with emotions.
You remember the adage "monkey see, monkey do", don't you? It's fascinating just how many people are watching us, with constancy, as role models. How we cope with anger... talk about grievances... choose to forgive... and cope with daily disappointments is likely one way our tribe will cope with them. Building our own social and emotional intelligence ~ the ability to identify... manage... express our emotions in productive and healthy ways ~ provides others with a path forward. It's important that we remain aware that others are learning from us in every situation so that we continue to rise to each occasion and offer the best version of ourselves.
We can't always choose what happens to us.
We CAN choose how we respond.
Ultimately, Beauties, we want to do our part in creating community with those who are able to thoughtfully respond to situations.
It is up to us to decide when or whether we should let go of grievances while staying true to who we are. When we understand that we are strengthened by each challenge, we cultivate the courage to live life wholeheartedly and choose love over fear.
It takes courage when we are beginning to understand the power of forgiveness. The fear is that we will be offering a gift to someone undeserving, that we will be condoning bad behavior or giving up our righteous position.
In reality, forgiveness is simply taking our personal power back.
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